The Elephant in the Room – Death

The Elephant in the Room – Death

My appliance guy came over to the house the other day to do a minor repair. He says to me, “You look good; are you happy?” He and I have worked together for many years (through Property Management) and are on a friendly basis, talking about life and relationships –...
Emotional Balance Leads to Healthier Eating

Emotional Balance Leads to Healthier Eating

On Tuesday, September 13, our Emotional Martial Arts™ (EMA) event focuses on the relationship of feelings and food. Emotional eating often leads to excess intake of sweets, salts and fats. These are the typical “comfort” foods we turn to when facing stress, conflicts,...
Reruns Are Boring – Change the Movie

Reruns Are Boring – Change the Movie

  We all have a mental movie projector that plays reruns. We get stuck in reruns. Boy, anybody can relate to that. Now, what I’ve learned up close with some of my challenging patients over the years, is that this “movie” metaphor is so powerful, and it’s so “real.”...
Happy Fathers Day

Happy Fathers Day

Mother’s Day became an official holiday in 1914 ~ Father’s Day lagged way behind, even though people tried for years to make it a holiday. Presidents Coolidge and Johnson acknowledged Father’s Day, but it was still not an official holiday until...

Become Your Best Advocate with a You-Turn

The You-Turn Awareness and Practice!  Add this Emotional Martial Arts™ tool to your tool belt to convert small changes into a big impact! Visualize going down the left arm of the U-Turn (then up the right arm) to transform the critic from “Inner Jailer” to “Inner...
Are You For Giving?

Are You For Giving?

Enjoy this 5 minute audio clip about a new paradigm of forgiveness: one where the work is an inside job; where there is no dependence on another person to do something different (i.e., apologize or make other behavioral changes); and the result of your efforts is for...